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Emily Bruno's avatar

When I was a litigator, I had a little ritual around my rage for when opposing counsel or the judge made me really angry. I would slick my hair back into a bun and put on bright red lipstick and then get to work on whatever email, reply, motion, brief, etc. the moment called for. It started as a kind of joke (a signal to others to leave me the hell alone if you don't want your head bitten off), but I soon found this literal "marking" of the emotion actually did help me get into a sort of flow state where some of my best, even creative, legal work was done. I would venture to say it was something of a sacred time. So I think there's something to the way we acknowledge and honor our rage, which can so often feel out of control, that helps us wrangle its wildness just a bit, to where we can work with it. Even if it's just with a coat of red lipstick.

Lisa Marie Simmons's avatar

Hello Pádraig and all of you lovely poets. Happy Mother's Day to those who celebrate, and for those for whom this day is fraught, I am sending you extra special juju.

Pádraig, your poem "Makebelieve" is stunning (as usual), especially "all our songs and stories; our songs about the stories we've forgotten; and all that we've forgotten we've forgotten." That waterfall of forgetting, and the songs that somehow survive it. That feels like the heart of why we keep making things at all.

This question about rage and creativity sent me back to a piece I wrote years ago for HuffPost about being the Black adopted daughter of a woman whose father was in the KKK. I used my fury as fuel, but an important part was making sure the rage didn't corrode the work itself. Rage alone can be corrosive, destructive. We must do no harm, even when we're blazing.

That said, as a micro-to-macro writer, I have so often used my own rage to speak to larger issues, to turn private pain into something that might be useful, that might help someone else see more clearly. The trick, I think, is to let the rage propel you toward the page, then step back and let craft, precision, and empathy take over. The poem (or essay, or protest, or policy, or painting, or song, etc.) becomes the container that holds the heat without letting it burn everything down. (This idea of words as containers that hold meaning is inspired by the splendid Metaphors We Live By (1980) by George Lakoff and Mark Johnson, which I've been fascinated by this last week and highly recommend.) Thank you as ever, community and fosterer of the same!!

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