I'm not young, and it has taken a good lifetime to realize I can say no - and expect it to be respected - and I must listen to no, and not try to bully or manipulate my way past that boundary. And I realize no has no power in a world without many and wonderful "yesses!"
"Be prepared" doesn't mean "know the answers"; it means "know the given questions well enough that you are compelled to ask your own questions instead."
When you find your hands working against your heart, your feet need to be leading you toward the door.
The word no is a complete sentence.
I'm not young, and it has taken a good lifetime to realize I can say no - and expect it to be respected - and I must listen to no, and not try to bully or manipulate my way past that boundary. And I realize no has no power in a world without many and wonderful "yesses!"
:)
Speed kills. Move at the speed of trust.
i agree! i don't know where the door is, but i know the key is "Don't hurry." : )
Do you want advice, or do you want re-assurance?
I like that -- I've learnt to ask that kind of question when people are asking for feedback on poetry.
Let it happen, first.
That’s such an exercise in patience.
I wish I'd read this earlier today! : ) thank you
It’s also giving to receive.
You have a big decision. You'll need to toss a big coin.
(Spoken by a man whose life experience I respected.)
We all suffer from feelings.
I’ve been re-reading Michael Eigen’s book “Emotional Storm” this week. Do you know it? It’s very good. Your line reminds me of it.
I have not yet read this latest by Eigen. Looks fascinating. I first heard this observation from the psychoanalyst Mark Solms.
Oh it's a 2005 book - I've just been re-reading it. It's magnificent
Begin again
When you write this work, sin boldly, do not let those who hurt you control your work. This is for you, this is for those who need it too.
there are no ordinary moments
a good reminder and nudge to wake up for me right now! thanks
No one is thinking about you. (it sounds harsh but it's liberating)
So many of the things that can be harsh can also be helpful (although I've known people who've used that truism as an excuse to just be harsh too)...
Oh yes Amy, how much wish I would have thought more about this and embraced as a young woman. But good advice and reminder for an old woman too! : )
"Rest."
"Let me care for you."
"Treat yourself like you're loved."
Advice I never wanted.
That can be tough to take, but such good advice.
"Be prepared" doesn't mean "know the answers"; it means "know the given questions well enough that you are compelled to ask your own questions instead."
You did that because that's what you needed to do. Let's not pathologize it.
What a kindness - yes. I like that. The automatic pathologizing of something is often not helpful.
If you are out with your beloved, and your words begin to have an edge to them, eat something.
I like the idea of turning to nurture when you begin to be barbed. Thanks Samantha.
Wonderful and I've never heard this suggestion. I'm pocketing it! Thanks